Having a positive outlook in life is attractive. Its good for your health. With it, all other good things in life are wired; confidence, high self-esteem, versatility and so on. Optimism lets you accept failures and situations as they are and learn from them which encourages further pursuit of achievement. Optimism should not be dictated by material things or exterior factors. It is born from an attitude within – which accepts unfortunate experiences as part of striving to attain goals. But like any other skill it takes time to develop.
The following are some ways that will teach you how to be an optimist.
1.) Smile – Even If You Don’t Feel Like It.
It may sound like a vague advice but smiling do foster optimism and even have positive psychological effects. Scientific researches found that optimism have a correlation with health; for example, optimistic people have been found to smoke less, consume more fruits and vegetables, are more physically attractive and are more likely to emerge from difficult circumstances with less stress than pessimists. Other researches have found that smiling releases Serotonin, Endorphin and Natural Pain Killers in the body which makes us feel good, reduce stress and relieve blood pressure.
2.) Always Envision The Light At The End Of The Tunnel.
When you assume to achieve the best possible outcome from any given situation, you are more likely to get the desired results. Your positive mental mind set affects your performance greatly. You feel more compelled and empowered when you start believing that everything is optimized. By cultivating this thinking you’re not straying away from reality but rather you’re providing yourself with a fresh perspective allowing you to focus your path to the direction of success and fruition. While it may be important to face facts and see things as they are, the approach you take in order to achieve it is equally as important.
3.) Surround Yourself With Other Optimistic, Happy And Positive People.
There’s that old saying telling us about the kind of company we keep says a lot about who we are. If you’re around people who always complain, moan and whine about anything in life, there’s a good chance their energy would rub off to you and no doubt you’d adapt habits that hinder you from becoming an optimist. It is said in the The Law Of Attraction that “like attracts like” – whatever you surround yourself with or think flows into that state of thinking. Optimism is an attitude developed overtime from within. It is powerfully contagious. If you want to be an optimist, make it your mission to avoid negativity at all times.
4.) Realize Nothing Is Permanent And Things Change.
Research show that people more prone to stress, general anxiety and regret are those who attribute life events as personal – a part of a permanent factor kind of thing they perceive as “forever” affecting them throughout life. To avoid these feelings of negativity, find out the things that matter and does not matter in your life. Spending time with your family and friends matters. Sending out thank you notes to someone who has done you a favor is nice. Not having the latest gizmo like your friends and spending your time troubling your mind over it is not good. So you didn’t get the promotion you were expecting. Deal with it in a constructive way; ask your boss what areas you need to improve on.
5.) Count your blessings.
Think of the things that you have. Appreciate how far you’ve come. Be grateful of all the obstacles you’ve overcome. Don’t dwell on the things you don’t have and regrets. An optimist deals with the situation as it happens. He does not think “I wish I did this, I wish I did that”. He finds the silver lining in every situation and is not imbued in the idea of “there’s no tomorrow.” Remember all the things that you are now are the results of the things you’ve done in the past. If you want to know what your future will be then look at your present actions. Focus on the countless blessings you have – even the minute ones such as being able to eat 3 meals a day, having a coffee with your friend, being able to go to the cinemas, and more good things will come your way.
6.) Mind your language.
They say that you can tell a lot about a person through his actions. But this is also true in the case of his use of language. The way an optimist speak can equally reveal a lot about his true character. An optimist never uses words of discouragement. He does not use words that brings down other people or extreme words to exaggerate events. Each day make it your routine to widen your vocabulary by learning at least 1 word that provokes positive attitude and thinking. Try not to swear even at the pits of heated arguments. Express your frustrations in non-offensive ways. Mind your language.